87) What is wrong if two individuals desire to get involved in a sexual relationship with each other ?

Sex is a divine gift. Its foremost function amongst living creature is reproduction. It is also true that in the case of man, besides reproduction, his mental health, shappiness of family life , peacefull social life : all are linked to sexuality. In availing of a sexual behaviour that is not in keeping with the divine guidelines, the mental health of the individual, solidarity of the family and social structure will be adversely affected. Moreover, such extra-marital relations will lead to the affliction by sexually transmitted diseases which will eventually end in the degeneration of society. Indeed, those who have learned of this through experience have been the very people who claim for themselves the status of being the spokespersons of modern civilisation.
Islam teaches that if two individuals are to have sexual relations with each other they are to do so only through the contract of marriage. Apart from that all other relations are bound to create problems and damage. It will also destroy the very fabric of all values in society. It will cast the seeds of suspicion within one’s marital life. Such suspicion will then create cracks within the rapport between hearts. It disrupts family relations – it will even gravely affect the mental health of future generations.
The statistics related to this subject in Kerala, which is currently moving ahead with the acceptance of western values, will frighten any with a sense of moral consciousness. For instance, at least three hundred people report atthe Rajiv Gandhi Centre for Biotechnology in Trivandrum every month to verify through DNA whether they themselves are indeed the fathers of the infants borne by their wives.
(Mathrubhumi Weekly, 31.01.99) What does this reveal? The number of spouses who distruct each other is on the increase. What is the reason for this? The answer is given by Mathrubhumi itself: “30 percent of the men and 18 percent of the women who participated in the survey confessed that they indulge in extra-marital affairs.” This is the state of Keralite society which boasts of great and lasting moral traditions. As for the state of western societies, it is even worse. The greatest social problem there continues to be the girls who become pregnant at a very tender age. Another important issue with which the government continues to grapple is the problem of illegitimate
children. However the situation there is such that these issues are not considered as problematic at all. Social scientists, however, warn that such violations of behavioural norms lead to the collapse of the institution of the family and consequently create social problems of a grave nature which will, in the long run, end in the total chaos and destruction of the western world.
Islam has never envisioned such a society. Islam has striven for the creation of a society wherein a peaceful family environment and marital relationship prevails. To that end, Islam considers that all sexual relations outside of wedlock are to be prohibited. For that reason the Qur’an recommends strict penal laws which serve to eliminate such sexual relations. Conceding the fact that the sexual impulse is, indeed, one of the most powerful of instincts, it is necessary, nevertheless, to check man, in the exercise of that impulse, with equally compelling measures. Indeed, herein lies the great relevance of the punishments in the Qur’an.

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